Im an average guy in my 23 years old.... been with her since 4 years now, met her at college, in case you wonder this relationship was very romantic n passionate, we love each other sooooo much....UNTIL

After our graduation, we decide to find a job... well finding a job isnt easy in n out, in n out of a job. My last job not last more than 2 or three month. im still trying though.lifes hard i know...

4 month later, my ex got an job offer as n admin from my aunt but only 3 years contract basis , even that im so happy for her. life goes on, first month was ok, BUT after 2 n 3 month she working there, something not right, she seems different(of course u notice whats the differents if u been with someone 4 years)

Yes she change, she CHANGE alot, im barely even know her. i notice she barely call/sms me even though my aunt says she often top-up her phone. She often work OT n come back home late, i know because she lives with my aunt. she tell me that she had so many work to do if she didnt do OT, her job was endless... i only said that 'dont always come home late manage your time, its not nice a lady come home so late at midnight, n you might get sick.' life goes on.....

Unfortunately, last month i have an accident. broke my 4 finger leg... got surgey n all sort of thing n now im in recovering state, doc said that i cannot walk until after 1 to 2 month. totaly need rest. i got really depressed n need support from my ex... first weeks she been really care to me, but after that, i feel so rejected n lonely. she never visit me at home even call me to say how do i do...

I learned that after my accident she always go out with her friend(boys n girls) all nite...she tell me that she need some entertaining, so i said ok, but not too often, once a week ok la. HOW NAIVE am I...hahaha. life goes on....

Last week was her b'day. i so hapy coz she got free call to friends n family. last last year when our b'day are coming, we totaly rang each other talk like there's no tomorow 24/7....'sampai panas telinga' thats what my mom always said.hahaha. BUT, this b'day was totally different, she even didnt call me. only if i tell her to. she so cold, i never felt that before. she said that she wants to call her friends instead of me coz there have'nt not got in touch for years. not one friend but many including n especialy boys... Who didnt Jealous if his gf/ her bf did that. so the jealousy build up, she didnt even care while im home still in recovering process.

I call her, try to talk with her but end up fighting. We always fight but not like this. In the end she wants me to give her time n i said ok. Again How naive am i... 2 days shes not calling me nor sms... i feel so lonely n depressed. life goes on...

After that my aunt come back from KL, she wants to throw a b'day party for my ex coz she in KL doing some work when my ex b'day so she invite me my mother another aunt n my sister to her home. this will be a surprise party for my ex. My aunt says my ex will come of about 9 pm, but that night my ex didnt show up, its been 11.30 pm. night goes on without the party. Even my aunt says to hers to come back early coz i has cook at home n have something for you. my aunt juz cant stand anymore. she even told us that my ex change drasticly recently, she tell us that her works was not good recently n my aunt feel ashamed with her boss coz shes the one that recommend my ex..

Now i know why shes acting like that, my aunt says that my ex was kena 'KEJUTAN BUDAYA' like an old village girl got his way to the real world. she's enjoying to much that she even know herself. shes hangout with all the guys at her works juz to enjoy her life. she goes all nite with different guy everyday. even my aunt says that all the employees there were shock seeing her like that, touching all the guys she talks to. even one of my aunt colleague said 'apa guna tudung klu perangai begitu". even one of her friend willing to give handphone to her if she close to him. Damn its really hurts my feeling, now i know my ex was a materialistic....

Even till now she still didnt call me... we didnt officially broke up, coz she still dont know that i know her doing, BUT for me she's history...

Yes im depressed n feel lonely, time will heal my feeling... yes im naive, but WTH/WTF... LIFE GOES ON...

did u think 'cook-cook' before posting this in the forum man? this is yr personal life... but its kind of a good thing that yr sharing yr life experience with us so that we can learn from each other..

more or less, its sad to know wat yr going through with all this going on and plus yr injury.. and its sad to know how yr friend changed drastically.....

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i understand that you care about her and dont want her to do something that she will regret later in life.. but if she doesnt want to listen to what you have to say, then i think yr only wasting yr time, yr energy, n yr emotion.. a good partner is a partner who is loyal physically, mentally and spiritually and one who respects you..

its going to be tough to recover from this.. but have faith that yr true soulmate will appear later in life and she will be all a good partner should be..

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btw, afiq said to me, "saya rasa tangan hafiz kuat tu nanti sebab kaki dia cedera so dia training tangan tu..."

keep a positive lifestyle, attitude, and mental man;) teruskan training! kasi besar BICEP & TRICEP, AND YR UPPER BODY:) be muscular and impressed all the ladies;D







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i dont mind sharing this frezz.... juz want to talk about it, n thnx for yer advise...
life can be so cruel i hope i can take this beat... i really appreciated man...

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haha, harap2 apa ckp afiq tu jd kenyataan... even im still in rcovering state , i train my hand too thnx for your support..